Are you the parent of a teenager? Then you know how tough it can be to handle one. And if you have more than one teenager then your job really gets tougher. However, the thing about teenage is that you have to remember that it is not an easy time and that it lasts only for a certain number of years. All you need to do is handle your teenage kid or kids during this time and then your teenage will soon be a young person in his or her twenties.
Well, we know that this is easier said than done, but you need to keep trying so that things at home are not too turbulent. We all know that the stage of life that teenagers are in can be difficult for them. They are full of raging hormones, they are changing physically and emotionally and as we know change of this magnitude can be really tough to handle even for a mature person.
A teenager is not a fully mature person and is someone who has stepped into the carefree realm of childhood to the entrance of what will be adult life. This can throw anyone off balance even in the normal course of things but in a teenager’s life there can be added stress in the form of a need to conform to social norms, be good at studies and competent at sports. Add to this, temptations like substance abuse of any kind, you have a tough mix of things to handle and that is why teenagers are so complex to handle.
We are sure that if you are a parent to a teenager or teenagers or handling teenagers, then you must be aware of all this and probably have even more information about teenagers.
However, While We Cannot Claim That We Have Some Magical Formula For You To Handle Teenagers, Neither Can We Say That We Are Qualified To Provide Advice, But We Hope That The Tips We Give You For Handling Teenagers, Will Help You:
Remember that it will pass: The thing is that the change period when a boy becomes a man or a girl becomes a woman is just a phase and this will pass after a while. It is only when you see it as an endless time do you start feeling frustrated and angry. It is a very good idea to tell yourself and others at home who are subjected to the mood swings of a teenager that this time will pass soon and that all of you need to hold on to your patience.
It is a tough time for all: While handling teenagers can be tough on you, you also need to remember that it is not easy for your teen either. In fact, your teen may be going through a tougher time as they not only feel moody and out of sorts all the time, they also feel awkward and guilty about the way they behave. Being in this state can be tough on your teenager and that is what makes him or her even worse.
Show your love and affection: While it is tough not to be angry over some of the things that your teenage kid or kids do, it is also important for you to show him or her or them that you still love them. This could be in the form of a hug or touch or even in the form of some roughhousing. Or you could show your love and affection by giving your son or daughter a place to hang out with his or her friends.
Set firm limits and stick to them: While showing love and affection is fine, teenagers also need to have limits set for them. Which is why, you will need to set limits and be firm about your teens sticking to them. This could be in the form of a curfew for date nights or about not allowing them to go on a date unless they have finished studying and their homework assignments. Or that they cannot drive until they have a proper licence to drive etc.
Learn when to talk and when to not: When it comes to teenagers, you will soon realize that they seek attention and reaction even when it is in a negative form. Sometimes, you will need to judge if your attention or reaction to a particular situation is warranted and if you would be better not showing any reaction at all. In some situations where your teen is trying to harm himself or herself, you will need to step in but if it is some silly harmless prank, then you are better off not reacting.
Give space when required: Handling teens by giving them space as needed will prevent you from thinking my children hate me is it my fault, but this is a fine line that you need to balance on to make it work. We are not saying it is easy but then parenting definitely fall under the category of being an easy task.