There is a saying that truth is all you need in order to be set free but truth may sometimes come about on time while we are being blamed for something we did not do. When this happens, the ones who are not guilty start to feel that way.
This article will help you deal with this kind of situation and help you understand that it is not about you but it is about the person who is making the accusation.
The thing to remember is that when someone wrongly flings accusations at you, that person is not worth your consideration. While such things are difficult to overlook, the thing to remember is that this person is doing it out of envy, insecurity and due to lack of self-esteem. They feel important bringing for the accusation as they get to be self-righteous and pass judgment on others.
There is no need to justify or prove anything: Since you are not guilty of what they are accusing you of, there is no call for you to go about proving your innocence. By doing this, you are only doing what they want you to do, which is fuel their need to get attention. In fact, the better way to go about it is, to forgive them as this will make them feel guilty and frustrated. You will need to draw on your reserves of patience to do this but you need to do it to feel good.
The not my fault but yours kind of narcissism: The thing is people who make accusations on others feel justified in doing this even though this has no basis in fact. They feel that they are wronged and that the whole world owes them for the things that has gone wrong in their lives. The thing to do is, to avoid becoming a victim to this and walking on eggshells around this person. What you can do is detach yourself from this situation and not become part of it.
The steps to take when you are the one who is being blamed:
Learn to deal with it: The thing is when faced with such situations, you need to remember that help is coming your way. You need to start believing that and soon you will be finding yourself becoming detached with the situation.
Gain some knowledge: While you do not need to prove yourself right, you can make
things right by armoring yourself with knowledge about the situation. When you discover that you have been manipulated, you will start to feel strong and free.
The classic symptoms of a blamer: Here are some signs that you need to look for when you come across such personalities. This way you will be prepared to deal with the situation, just like the way knowing the psychological effects of divorce on children, helps people prepare for what follows. Here are the signs to watch out for:
Negativity: One of the ways to identify a blamer is by seeing how pessimistic or negative they are. They can probably put a negative spin on anything.
Never accepting blame: A classic behavior of such people is never to accept the blame or responsibility for anything that goes wrong.
Finding an excuse: Blamers like to make excuses for things that did not go their way and they can get pretty creative at this.
Quick to react: Another sure sign of people who live and love to blame is that they can be pretty quick tempered.
Take credit: These guys love to take the credit for having predicted failure when things go wrong and love crowing about how they were right.
They betray: These type of people cannot be trusted as they like to feel that no matter what they do, they are not wrong so they see nothing wrong in betraying those who trust them.
Being jealous: The minute they see you having something good or have something nice happen to them, they will become resentful and jealous. No matter how hard that you have worked for your success, they feel that they deserved it more.
You should be careful of people who always feel that the fault is yours and never accept the blame for anything. These sort of people love playing mind games and tend to manipulate things.
Narcissistic attitude: One of the main ways to spot a blamer is when you find that they are narcissistic, which is a sure sign that they feel good about blaming others and never feel that anything is their fault.
Once you learn to spot such behavior, it will come in handy in many ways including helping others as well as recognizing the signs in yourself and taking steps to put things right.
Narcissism is a personality disorder which can be identified by the following criteria:
A huge feeling of self-importance
Wanting too much attention
Feeling entitled to things
Arrogant mien and behavior
Being envious and jealous
Self-advancement by using others